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If you look at people who have brought about major social changes in our country and other men who are not in our country but in the world, people like Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther King or Ghandi. Can you imagine anger management classes for white supremacists? 'How did you feel right before you burnt the cross?' 'Can you recognise your anger cues?' This is just something that they would not do.
Facilitator:
That reminds me of the first men's group I ever attended. There were about fifteen men in the group. We were supposed to go around the room and introduce ourselves. Everyone was to say a sentence or two about why they were in the group. The first man said he was there because he had a short fuse. The next said he was there because he had an anger problem. Another said he exploded. Another was ordered by the court to attend. Everyone said these kinds of things about fuses, explosions and court orders. I began to wonder to myself if this was a batterers' group or not. Aren't these men here because they beat up women?
Kathy:
I know that my husband used to tell me he beat me because he was working out a deep hatred he held for his mother and when he hit me it really had nothing to do with me.
Jill:
My husband said the reason he hit me was because his pressure valve was defective. (Laughter)
Facilitator:
That's a good one. A defective pressure valve. I suppose it's pretty hard to make an appointment to have that checked. So what does this mean to us? When you're being beaten and when it's over you have a black eye and this incredible fear in your stomach that won't go away for days, you're in pain and emotionally hurting and degraded. People are talking about pressure valves, short fuses and prayers, how does that impact us? What does it do to us?
Geri:
It made me feel almost invisible. It seemed that what I was going through and what everyone over here was talking about were two different things. I started to feel as though I wasn't there, I was invisible.
(Pence 1987)
MOVE be resourced to develop a different model of perpetrator program to confront men's use of violence and to respond to the potential for Court ordered counselling after conviction for assault. (Recommendation 41)
The FVPC's broad functions of monitoring the effectiveness of the Crimes (Family Violence) legislation and raising community awareness about family violence necessitate discussion and recommendations about programs for violent men. The Committee recognises that the causes of family violence, and therefore any preventive measures, cannot be separated from the social and structural barriers which exist in society to prevent women and girls from gaining equality with men, both economically and socially. The Committee also emphasises that the criminal nature of family violence must be dealt with accordingly and that programs for violent men should not provide an avenue whereby violent behaviour can be excused if the aggressor is attending counselling, or a 'program' in anger management. Further, the Committee believes that if there are programs for violent men they should:
- recognise that violence is controlling and abusive behaviour, including not only physical assault, but also verbal discrediting, property destruction, humiliation, economic control, sexual assault or coercion, psychological violence and control of a woman's eating, sleeping employment and friendships.
- acknowledge that women's safety and autonomy is of paramount importance throughout the program. That during the time of the man's attendance, his violence be treated as a criminal offence and that his partner be encouraged to take out an intervention order or to report a breach of an intervention order.
- focus on the violent behaviour of the aggressor and not on anger management.
- demonstrate an understanding of the unequal power relations between men and women in our society and how these lead to family violence and understand that stress, life crises, chemical dependency and alcohol, whilst often contributing factors, are NOT the root causes of family violence.
- emphasise the criminal nature of assault in the home.
- not make men's participation conditional upon their spouse/partners attendance.
- not offer false expectations of changing men's behaviour as this could put women and children in great danger.
(FVPC unpub., p. 14)
That an evaluation of services for violent men be undertaken to help shape policy guidelines for future service development. This evaluation should question:That referral to programs for violent men not be used as an alternative to appropriate legal sanctions.
- whether attendance is voluntary or directed;
- investigate the length and effectiveness of such programs;
- monitor the correlation between the decrease in physical abuse and the increase of emotional and psychological abuse;
- the effectiveness of programs established to modify the behaviour of violent men
(FVPC unpub., p. 2)
The Family Violence Professional Education Task Force, which was established in Victoria in 1987 and aims to:
- improve the service provision offered by professionals for victims of family violence through education and training;
- improve the competency of educators in their teaching of family violence issues to students in designated post-secondary education courses;
- increase the resources devoted to the study of family violence in designated postsecondary education courses.
Probation and Parole Services are requested to develop a treatment program for domestic violence offenders as an additional sentencing option available to the court. (Recommendation 28)
Counselling for Batterers
- The Committee does not support the establishment or funding of a pilot program, principally because of the lack of evidence of their success and the need to target programs at women and children.
- Mandatory counselling for batterers is not recommended.
- The Committee did, however, acknowledge that any programs for batterers or perpetrators must:
This should include existing programs such as any being run by the Department of Corrective Services Probation and Parole Offices, and Community Health Services.
3.1 be externally evaluated
3.2 not be offered as anything other than a post-sentencing option
3.3 be used only as an addition to legal responses, e.g. charges of assault A(D)V0s and not as an alternative.
Training- That the Department of Corrective Services Probation and Parole Offices introduce training programs on domestic violence issues for their officers.
- That educational establishments incorporate specialist training on domestic violence issues into appropriate undergraduate and vocational courses.
Legislation- That the Crimes (Apprehended Violence) Amendment Act 1989 not be proclaimed, and that instead Apprehended Domestic Violence Orders continue to operate as at present.
- That police policy and resources continue to encourage the arrest and charging of domestic violence offenders and the use of A(D)V0s.
- That the magistracy consult with the New South Wales Domestic Violence Committee over sentencing options for domestic violence offenders.
- That the Family Court develop a protocol for dealing with cases involving domestic violence.
Support- That the number of follow-up support workers attached to women's refuges be increased and that the positions become funded on a full-time basis.
Education- That the Department of Education introduce a core curriculum subject of 'personal development' based on a revised version of the 1984 kit Teaching About Non-Violent Relationships and that the revision be undertaken jointly by the Department of Education and the New South WalesDomestic Violence Committee.
General- That the NSW Domestic Violence Committee develop a State strategic plan for services in the area of domestic violence, to be submitted to the Minister for Family and Community Services as a matter of urgency.
(McFerran 1989, pp. v-vi)
The nature of the relationship between the abuser and his victim is one in which the abuser imposes his will upon her. Her behaviour is prescribed following guidelines set by the abuser. Like the hostage or prisoner of war, she protects herself by acting for him. Limiting the victim's responsibility in evoking and imposing legal sanctions on the abuser decreases his ability to manipulate the system, and avoid the consequences of his violence. (Pence 1985)